- lingering concerns that you are constantly doing things the wrong way or that there is something wrong with you frequent self-criticism or harsh judgments about yourself
- a belief about yourself that you are not adequately smart, motivated or assertive• a belief about yourself that you are not adequately smart, motivated or assertive
- tendency to diminish your self-worth based on the opinions, judgments, and criticisms of others• tendency to diminish your self-worth based on the opinions, judgments, and criticisms of others
- constant skepticism that anything good could happen for you
Restorative Engagement Therapy carefully explores the history of your life from both personal and socio-political perspectives. By understanding the historical context of your life, we begin to dismantle any inaccurate “single-story” of deficiency and replace it with a complete and nuanced picture of your most profound life experiences. Through this process you give voice to the resiliency of your character, which until this point may have felt silenced, unseen and under appreciated.
restoring relational intimacy
The human soul is wired to perceive the world and the self differently after it has endured experiences of mistreatment, unmet relational needs, and neglect or loss. Unfortunately, one of the lingering injustices of experiencing a history of unreliable and inconsistent relationships is that the soul becomes distrustful to vulnerability and intimacy. And although this protective stance against vulnerability is intended to be self-preserving, an unintended side-effect is that we remain cut-off and disconnected from the people we love, and we begin to experience ourselves as unlovable.
Processes of restorative engagement can be helpful if your relationship has experienced any of the following:
- deteriorating sense of connection and/or lingering feelings of being under-appreciated
- disagreements which rely on strategies of insulting or silencing the other person
- asserting one’s position within the relationship through the creation and exploitation of relational power imbalances
- unexplainable feelings of distrust, pessimism or skepticism• unexplainable feelings of distrust, pessimism or skepticism
- patterns of emotional betrayal or infidelities
Restorative Engagement Therapy carefully explores the historical implications of vulnerability from both personal and socio-political perspectives. And gradually engages various physiological structures of the mind, as a way of conditioning the psyche to experience secure states of vulnerability and intimacy. This is accomplished by engaging both cognitive (rational) and affective (emotional) structures of the brain and nervous system; ultimately promoting changes necessary to experience genuine connection and healthy relationships.
restoring emotional resilience
The affective processes of restorative engagement may help you if you’ve experienced any of the following:
- constant sense of distraction due to worry, stress, anxiousness, agitation or shame
- diminished sense of motivation or frequent feelings of dread, burnout or resentment
- experiences of overwhelm during social engagements or frequent periods of isolation
- chronic feelings of secretiveness or fear that shameful personal information will be exposed
- past exposure to dangerous circumstances that required you to compromise your values in order to survive
- exposure to significant loss, traumatic loss or repeat experiences of powerlessness
Restorative Engagement Therapy is a multi-layered process for reflecting on significant experiences and circumstances which have impacted your life. By understanding the events and conditions you have endured, we get a better sense of why your nervous-system is in a perpetually vigilant state of self-preservation. Through affective processes, these systems can be prompted for re-conditioning and more efficient self-regulation, ultimately cultivating increased opportunities for quiet optimism and peace of mind.