Services – Lance Tango Therapy

Services

one-on-one therapy

restoring self-assuredness

As human beings, we are wired to take in and integrate information from our environment to ensure our survival. Not surprisingly, the human soul will naturally perceive the world and the self differently after it has endured experiences of denigration, abuse, and unjust losses. Following significant and prolonged mistreatment, our concept-of-self crystalizes around false notions and a problematic “single-story” of fallibility, inadequacy, inferiority, and unlovableness. Unfortunately, over time this “single-story” becomes the framework through which we come to perceive ourselves in the world, resulting in a diminished sense of self. Cognitive processes of restorative engagement may help you if you’ve experienced any of the following:

lingering concerns that you are constantly doing things the wrong way or that there is something wrong with you frequent self-criticism or harsh judgments about yourself
a belief about yourself that you are not adequately smart, motivated or assertive• a belief about yourself that you are not adequately smart, motivated or assertive
tendency to diminish your self-worth based on the opinions, judgments, and criticisms of others• tendency to diminish your self-worth based on the opinions, judgments, and criticisms of others
constant skepticism that anything good could happen for you

Restorative Engagement Therapy carefully explores the history of your life from both personal and socio-political perspectives. By understanding the historical context of your life, we begin to dismantle any inaccurate “single-story” of deficiency and replace it with a complete and nuanced picture of your most profound life experiences. Through this process you give voice to the resiliency of your character, which until this point may have felt silenced, unseen and under appreciated.

couple’s therapy

restoring relational intimacy

The human soul is wired to perceive the world and the self differently after it has endured experiences of mistreatment, unmet relational needs, and neglect or loss. Unfortunately, one of the lingering injustices of experiencing a history of unreliable and inconsistent relationships is that the soul becomes distrustful to vulnerability and intimacy. And although this protective stance against vulnerability is intended to be self-preserving, an unintended side-effect is that we remain cut-off and disconnected from the people we love, and we begin to experience ourselves as unlovable.

Processes of restorative engagement can be helpful if your relationship has experienced any of the following:

deteriorating sense of connection and/or lingering feelings of being under-appreciated
disagreements which rely on strategies of insulting or silencing the other person
asserting one’s position within the relationship through the creation and exploitation of relational power imbalances
unexplainable feelings of distrust, pessimism or skepticism• unexplainable feelings of distrust, pessimism or skepticism
patterns of emotional betrayal or infidelities

Restorative Engagement Therapy carefully explores the historical implications of vulnerability from both personal and socio-political perspectives. And gradually engages various physiological structures of the mind, as a way of conditioning the psyche to experience secure states of vulnerability and intimacy. This is accomplished by engaging both cognitive (rational) and affective (emotional) structures of the brain and nervous system; ultimately promoting changes necessary to experience genuine connection and healthy relationships.

one-on-one therapy

restoring emotional resilience

Uncomfortable emotional states such as depression or anxiety often emerge when difficult life conditions have profoundly impacted psycho-biological processes which naturally occur in our bodies and minds – creating a persistent felt-sense of powerlessness or loss. This is particularly evident in cases when the human soul has endured harsh treatment, trauma or significant losses over protracted periods or during critical stages of development. Following this type of mistreatment or loss, our nervous-system which is responsible for our self-regulation is in a constant state of high-alert. Although this high-alert status is the human soul’s attempt to protect itself from further injury, ultimately this leads to symptoms of dysregulation which are typically associated with depression, anxiety or trauma.

The affective processes of restorative engagement may help you if you’ve experienced any of the following:

constant sense of distraction due to worry, stress, anxiousness, agitation or shame
diminished sense of motivation or frequent feelings of dread, burnout or resentment
experiences of overwhelm during social engagements or frequent periods of isolation
chronic feelings of secretiveness or fear that shameful personal information will be exposed
past exposure to dangerous circumstances that required you to compromise your values in order to survive
exposure to significant loss, traumatic loss or repeat experiences of powerlessness

Restorative Engagement Therapy is a multi-layered process for reflecting on significant experiences and circumstances which have impacted your life. By understanding the events and conditions you have endured, we get a better sense of why your nervous-system is in a perpetually vigilant state of self-preservation. Through affective processes, these systems can be prompted for re-conditioning and more efficient self-regulation, ultimately cultivating increased opportunities for quiet optimism and peace of mind.